Thursday, June 16, 2011

Old Fashioned Relationship Advice

I write contemporary western romances for Harlequin American but even modern day heroes and heroines need some good ol' fashioned advice on love and relationships. And who better to consult than a a rough-n-tumble cowboy and cowgirl. When the couple in my book hits a snag, I turn to my favorite resource for a little cowfolk advice. Thought it would be fun to share some snippets on Happy-Ever-Afters from…

Just One Fool Thing after Another.
A Cowfolks' Guide to Romance by Gladiola Montana and Texas Bix Bender.

Attention without intention is flirtation.
To bring somebody into your life, take a step into theirs.
The ranch is work from sun to sun, but loves work is never done.
If your mind's set to ride a buckin' bronc, you'd better be prepared for the bruises.
When you fall into somebody's arms, you're fallin' into their hands as well.
A heart that ain't been broke thinks it's okay to go round breakin' others.
There's no cure for lovesickness, and nobody really wants one.

A man can build a house but it takes a woman to make it a home.

If you wanta stay single look for a perfect mate.
It may be more romantic to be the first love, but it's better to be the last.
When a woman makes up her mind you can always be sure she's gonna do exactly what she says—or not.

Women flirt to be appreciated; men mean it.

A woman wanted by men but disliked by women is nothin' but trouble.

The only time a woman can change a man is when he's a baby.

Try not to make a ring around a finger feel akin to a rope around the neck.

Never go to bed mad. Stay up and fight it out.

When you're pickin' fklowers everybody gets along. When it's time to muck the stalls is when you find out how true your love is.

Stolen kisses require an accomplice.

When you can't keep anything from 'em, you love 'em.

Big problems will pull you together. It's the little things that tear you apart.

Okay, time to fess up! Share the advice friends or family members have given you on personal relationships and marriage—was it good advice or poppycock?

Marin Thomas
The Bull Rider's Secret July 2011
A Rodeo Man's Promise (Dec 2011)
Arizona Cowboy (Feb 2012)


  1. Fun post, Marin.
    I don't think anyone's ever given me advice. But I love the ones you posted.

  2. MARIN--this is so good! Love the photos--well, I just love a pictoral tour--Every piece of advice was spot on.
    Relationship Advice? Oh, I've been given plenty advice--whether I listen or just laugh is the question.
    One was, if you forgot to vacuum and clean the house and it was your turn, drag the vacuum cleaner to the middle of the floor and dab a little Pinesol behind yours ears.
    He'll praise you for working so hard--hopefully.
    I enjoyed reading this--Celia

  3. Marin, what a fun post! All of the advice was good, too, and I loved the photos. So many people have given me advice, but I can't think of any that was good. LOL My mother in law did say that if a man is a good son, then he'll be a good husband. With my husband, she was right, but I've known too many friends who married "mama's boys" and regretted it.

  4. Marin,
    This is just a wonderful post. LOVED IT. My mom was a great one to give me advice, but of course, I didn't ever take it when I was younger (you know that old saying, "youth is wasted on the young"?--it's so true!)I had a good friend one time that told me, if you don't feel like cleaning the house, just wait until it's almost time for Gary to come home and then run the vacuum cleaner and spray some pledge in the air. It always makes it look like you've been working at cleaning. LOL Also, something my mom told me was, when you marry someone, be sure you like them well enough to go do things with them and just be with them, because sex goes out the window when you're older and you still need to be able to enjoy each other. LOL I can't believe she told me that becuase she was so prim and proper that SEX was really hard for her to utter.


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