Sarah
McNeal is a multi-published author of time travel, paranormal, western,
contemporary and historical fiction. Her stories may be found at Publishing by
Rebecca Vickery and Prairie Rose Publications. Her website: http://www.sarahmcneal.com
My Unconventional Family
This
month we were asked to write our blogs about ourselves. I’m not
used to blabbing on about myself, but I do like to talk about the people who
raised me and helped mold me into the person I am today—my parents.
This is my
great-grandmother, Sarah Jane Barnhart for whom I was named.
(My grandmother and grandfather McNeal.
My grandfather always wore this hat. He was born the year after the Civil War
ended. That just astounds me.)
(My mom and me. Looks like a Steinbeck novel)
My
parents had some very different notions of how to raise children. For the most
part, I’m grateful for it. My dad was the Thomas Jefferson of the family
constitution. We were allowed a great deal in the way of freedom, but we also
learned early on that there were consequences for our actions. I suppose that’s
always true of freedom, in that it required responsibility for one’s own
actions.
My older sister, Mary, and me on our
first Christmas in North Carolina
We were
never forced to share our toys. Now you might think not sharing would make us
guarded and selfish, but that was not the case. Because we knew we didn’t have
to share, we didn’t feel the need to guard our toys. No one was going to snatch
them away from us. We did learn an important life lesson, too. We could
negotiate using toys as a tool. It went sort of like this: I’ll let you play
with my Betsy Wetsy (there really was a doll named that who did that) if
you will let me play with your tea set. We were actually quite generous with
our stuff most of the time. We even gave some toys away when the church asked
for donations for kids without Christmas.
(I'm crying because Mary was invited to a
party and I wasn't. She's all dressed up and I'm in my crappy dress. This
picture was taken on the Naval base at Virginia Beach when Pop worked ocean
weather on a coast guard cutter.)
My
parents did not hang over our shoulders demanding that we do our school work. I
hated homework. I found many ways to procrastinate about getting it done. Since
there were no rules regarding a time or place for doing homework, I, in my
infinite wisdom, decided I could just skip it. Well, I found out there is
a consequence to not doing homework that has nothing to do with grades (a thing
I also didn’t care much about.) After suffering the deep humiliation of not
having a report to give when it came to my turn, I became mortified. After
several humiliating episodes before my schoolmates, I did do homework,
but I can’t really say I studied. It was fortunate for me that I was a great
listener and note taker, or I may not have passed a single grade. The first
time I seriously studied was my senior year in high school, and of all things,
it was in English. College changed my errant study habits forever.
We
didn’t have censorship in what we read. If the book was in our house, we were
allowed to read it. The only time the lack of censorship in reading material came
to be tested was when I started reading my mother’s True Detective magazines
when I was around ten. The horror of these supposedly true stories were told in
graphic detail and gave me nightmares. They never told me to stop reading these
stories, but the secret stash of these magazines suddenly dried up. I can only
assume in retrospect, that Mom no longer bought them, or else she found a
really good place to hide them. Although fascinated by these horrific stories,
I was glad to get back to my Little Lulu and Casper the Ghost comics. And, by
the way, comic books were encouraged in our house. It was Pop’s sneaky way of
getting us to read.
We
weren’t allowed to roam the neighborhood, but we were allowed to roam
the woods. When I think of it now, it’s hard to decide which of these places
were the most dangerous for little kids. We spent hours building teepees out of
limbs and pretending to be explorers unfettered by parental rules.
This is
Pop on our birthday back in 1975. He wore it on TV where he was doing his
weatherman gig on the news. That same day, Jimmy Carter was on the show
campaigning for president. In Pop's sock was a skindu (a traditional dagger)
that security must not have noticed.
I was a
firebug. My older sister was the perfect accomplice. We planned a very
long time how we would put a candle in a papier-mâché Halloween pumpkin. Our
plan unfolded one morning in the hall closet. It was difficult to get that darn
match to light, but we finally accomplished it and, voila, a very exciting
flame ensued. When we grew tired of sitting in the closet watching the
candle burn, we left…and we left the candle burning. After the fire department
left, we did receive one of the rare spankings from Pop. I had a total of
three, and each one involved a life-threatening action on my part. After
the fire spanking, I declared I was leaving home and packed up my toys in my
wagon. My clever parents said I would have to wait until after dark so I
wouldn’t embarrass them in front of the neighbors. A good bluff; they knew I
was afraid of the dark. Later, after they thought we were asleep, they were in
the kitchen which was close to our room, talking about our escapades and,
amazingly, were laughing about it.
While
being punished for something, I think it was sticking bubble gum under the
chair, I sat facing the wall in the chair of shame. Bored and angry, I decided
it was a good idea to tear the wallpaper off the wall. The consequences could
have been great, but I was fearless. They laughed about my actions because, as
it turned out, I was helping them since they planned to remove the wall paper
and paint. Well, who knew?
As
teenagers, my sister and I were grounded for wrecking Mom’s car and lying about
it. Lying was one of those things that had automatic punishment added to it. We
weren’t supposed to use the phone for a week. Pop disabled our phone upstairs,
so it was dead. We made it through 24 hours of silence before we decided to
hunt for the phone box and figure out how to fix it. We found it, replaced the
wire Pop disconnected, and, in victory, called the inside phone from our room.
When Pop answered and he knew we fixed our phone, he took us off our no-call
grounding and commended us for finding how he had disabled our phone. See what
I mean? We were allowed so much freedom. But don’t think there weren’t some
rules. A big one was not to smart-mouth our mother. Another rule was no
skipping school and, finally, no lying. We could do just about anything else,
but those three had dire consequences. I never skipped school in my life. I did
smart-mouth my mother—once only, and I did tell a few lies when my back was to
the wall, but the truth proved to be the easier way out of a situation. Sometimes my parents had difficulty discerning my "stories" for lies, but they got good at telling the difference.
We
didn’t have a bedtime after we reached the age of twelve. I spent a few days at
school miserably trying to stay awake and learned the lesson on this particular
freedom. Weekends and summer were my glory days when I stayed up all hours, but
I ditched the idea of staying up on school nights. I’m not one for misery.
You
might wonder how my sister and I managed to graduate from school without
failing a grade and get into college. It seems we had so much freedom to do
what we wanted, you might think we would be undisciplined and unruly, but we
weren’t. We respected our parents and we had the satisfying knowledge that we
could take care of ourselves. Our parents took a big risk allowing us so much
freedom. The worst consequence was to disappoint them. I just couldn’t
take that look on their faces when I lost their respect.
My
parents led by example, teaching us things about life, love, and family. As
much as my mother had chronic depression and battled heart disease from my
early childhood, she didn’t complain about it. She faced it with dignity,
perseverance, and courage in the face of adversity. Mom taught us how to sew
and improvise when we wanted something there was no pattern for, and how to
cook even when all the ingredients weren’t in the pantry. She could make a
tasty meal out of sawdust.
(This is Pop releasing a squirrel who
managed to get into the bird trap Pop used for catching birds to ban.)
Pop
took us on walks in the woods and showed us all he knew including a reverence
for all God’s creation. He made math into a game and never criticized me for
never being good at it. We learned how to garden using compose heaps and soap
instead of commercial fertilizers and poisonous chemicals. He was a feminist
long before the notion became popular. He believed women were smart and needed
to be educated. He once told me that I should always be self-reliant because, you
never know when you might end up needing to support your family. He was a
dedicated conservationist and banned birds for the Fish and Wildlife Service
from the time he was a kid. I’m glad now that he didn’t allow us to have a TV
even though I resented it when I was a kid. My sister and I spent our days
reading, going on adventures, and cooking up outrageous schemes. We were never
bored.
Even
though they made their fair share of mistakes, my parents made us feel safe,
secure, and loved. They gave me the strength, courage and freedom to be who I
really am. My parents were a gift. Because of their wisdom and guidance, I have
been able to face some very difficult times in my life without giving up or
feeling sorry for myself. They believed in me. I couldn't ask more than that.
A Bit About Me Today
I have
been married—twice, actually. Although I never had children of my own, I have
fur babies I love very much, Liberty the cat and Lily, the golden retriever. On
September 11, 2001, Liberty was hit by a car and, after she was treated for her
injuries, my vet put her up for adoption. I saw her when I brought my dog in
for her yearly exam. She was the sweetest little kitten. We bonded and I
adopted her. Lily was a rescue dog. I got her when she was 4 months old. She
had been dumped in a high kill shelter by a couple who said they couldn’t love
her. They had recently lost their previous golden and probably tried to fill
the void too soon. I had lost my previous golden, Kate, due to cancer, but Lily
and I healed each other through all the sadness we had experienced.
Lily, my Golden Retriever
Liberty sleeping under her "sun lamp" on my desk
I
became a practical nurse and worked just about every department in my early
years. But I wanted to work in critical care, especially coronary care, so I
went back to school to become a registered nurse to qualify for critical care.
It was hard to do. I worked full time and had to drive an hour each way to get
to and from college. After 3 years, I finally succeeded and worked 21 years in
coronary care, and then transferred to the emergency department and worked the
last 17 years of my career there.
I'm standing in front of the CCU monitors. I know. The frog is weird. I made it for the Christmas tree when I was about 16. I wore it to cheer up the patients.
I’ve
been writing most of my life. It took a long time and many classes in creative
writing before I finally became published in 1999. I didn’t write romance in
the beginning. I was more into sci-fi and fantasy fiction. On the suggestion of
one of my writing instructors, I tried writing romance, and loved it. Although
I write mostly western romance now, I also write paranormal, time travel, and a
few contemporary stories and novels. My western romances take place in Wyoming
in the fictional town of Hazard and involve the Wilding family first introduced
in my time travel western, Harmonica Joe’s Reluctant Bride. In my short story
in the Christmas anthology, WISHING FOR
A COWBOY, I wrote, A Husband for Christmas, about Jane
and her son, survivors of the Titanic and rescued from a fire by Banjo Wilding.
Just when it seems Jane and Robin will spend their lives alone, Banjo’s uncle,
a half Lakota named Teekonka, shows them there just might be a brighter future
than they ever imagined, in spite of all their emotional pain. It’s now out as a single.
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this story to someone who comments today.
A night of horror… a wish
for a new life...and a secret love
BLURB:
Jane Pierpont and her son,
Robin, survived the Titanic, but her husband went down with the ship and the
emotional scars of that night have kept her and her son locked into that
frightening event years later . Robin is terrified of deep water and Jane has
nightmares and survivor’s guilt. She yearns for a family, a loving husband and
maybe another child, but she feels disloyal to Michael’s memory whenever
Teekonka RedSky comes near her.
Teekonka RedSky loves Jane and
her son, but all his efforts to help them past their painful memories of the
night Michael Pierpont died have been unsuccessful. Unwilling to give up, can
his Lakota beliefs help him bring peace to Robin and free Jane to love again?
EXCERPT:
Teekonka
let go of the latch and stepped back into the room. He took Jane’s hand in his,
its warmth radiating into her chest. “I wondered if you and Rob would attend
the festival with me.”
Jane
felt confused. “The hotel is just down the street from here. We can manage to
get there quite well on our own.”
He
shook his head and squeezed her hand. “You don’t understand, Jane. I’m asking
you and your son to go with me because I want to court you.”
Jane
pulled her hand free. Self-reproach engulfed her. Before her stood a handsome,
strong man who wanted to court her and include her son, but she couldn’t. It
wasn’t right. Surely, Michael’s spirit was close by, and he would never
approve. He couldn’t help dying. “I…I’m flattered that you should ask, but I
can’t. My husband—”
Teekonka’s
jaw clenched. “Your husband is dead. He’s been dead for seven years.” He
stepped back from her. A frown turned his firm lips down. After he walked to
the door and lifted the latch, he turned to her again. “I’m sorry. I apologize
for reacting so angrily. You still love your husband. I understand.” The
door closed, and he was gone.
Jane
stood alone in a room that had suddenly grown cold and dim.
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