I first tell in love with the Old West through childhood books
like Caddie Woodlawn and the Little House series. Oh, the outdoorsie, pioneer life seemed
just right for me. These days I am very much an indoor-plumbing/Marriott sort
of girl, but those childhood fantasies just won’t quit. Hence, writing western
romance. And one of my favorite themes to read or write is the Mail Order
Bride.
In my book Marrying Minda, the good guys of Minda Becker’s
Pennsylvania hometown are either dead or severely maimed due to the Civil War.
After raising three little sisters, she refuses to be a caretaker anymore. Joining a
“hearts and hand club”, she finds the perfect mate: a well-off farmer in
Nebraska. She arrives in Paradise wearing her wedding gown and...marries the
wrong man.
In my latest, Her Hurry-up Husband, socialite Elspeth Maroney
needs to hide from a serious indiscretion in the city. Escaping to the outback
of Colorado as a rancher’s MOB--just for one month--sounds about right. But of course she wants to stay with Hezekiah forever after about ten minutes.
Okay, these are fictions. What provoked a woman in the 19th
century to partake in such a life-changing decision fraught with danger? We all
have happy endings in our books, but was MOB-ing worth the risk?
What would get a woman to travel hundreds of miles to marry
a man she didn't know? Or at best, knew only from letters and a tintype or two?
Here’s what I think:
1. Starting Over. Like my Elspeth Maroney, her reputation is in tatters and a future in her
normal locale is too scandalous.
2. Lack of Suitable Men. It’s true. Gender equality didn't exist in
much of 19th century America. And I don’t mean voting rights. I mean, as with
my Minda Becker...the East had a proliferation of females due to the deadly
costs of the Civil War. In the West, the frontier teemed with masculine jobs like
logging, gold mining, and starting up a farm or ranch from scratch. Here, men
outnumbered women as much as 3, sometimes 4 four, to one.
(dark spots on this census map indicate the highest concentration of males.)
3. Her Desire for Excitement and Adventure. Sounds scary to
me without the modern advantages of internet searches, eHarmony, and Google Earth.
Goodness, one’s intended might write about a gorgeous, three thousand acre
spread that turns out to be a dug-out in the side of a hill. And shivers...maybe
he’s an ax murderer...
4. Civilize and evangelize! The untamed west was full of saloons
and bordellos and pretty short on churches, tea rooms and schools.
5. Looking for
Love...and the usual places just aren't working.
6. Financial security...she’s down on her luck and has
nothing else to try and nowhere else to go.
As for guys advertising for mail order brides, well, we all
know their needs: bedroom and kitchen. Just kidding. Men too wanted love,
companionship, and families...culture and cleanliness. In 1849, a ship arriving
in San Francisco with a promised load of MOB’s actually produced only
three..leaving the waiting bachelors so bereft they went on an epic spree of
drunkenness.
What do you think? What would motivate a woman to become a mail
order bride?
BLURB:
Prim and proper socialite Elspeth Maroney flees from an
indiscretion to the Wild West of Colorado as a mail order bride. She doesn’t
plan to stay long, only a month. Rancher Hezekiah Steller needs a wife quick to
get himself an heir, but what will the stagecoach deliver to his doorstep?
Their worlds collide deliciously until Ellie must confess her mistakes. Will Hez still want her tomorrow?
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Tanya, what a fun post! I too love MOB stories - they're right up there with Marriage of Convenience stories as being one of my favorite romance tropes. And you do such a great job of it in your work - adding fun touches of humor along with the romance!
ReplyDeleteI think financial security had to be the biggest one, especially if her looks hadn't caught a local man's eye. How scary would it be though to just take off away from family and friends and marry someone you really know nothing about??
ReplyDeletehi Winnie, I am right with you there...marriage of convenience or planned marriage (e.g. to fulfill the terms of a will...done that one too LOL.) are my favorites. I love the journey of them falling in love. sigh. Thanks so much for posting today, my friend!
ReplyDeleteHi Linda, I know, women had so few choices, it seems. I don't even like to drive freeways...traveling not just to meet a stranger but to share his bed doesn't sound that romantic unless we authors get a hold of it LOL. Thanks for the post today.
ReplyDeleteThey must have been difficult times for a woman on her own. How would she support herself? I love reading about these daring pioneer women. Great post and something to think about. Thanks, Tanya.
ReplyDeleteTanya--I liked the list of reasons why a woman would be a MOB. The one that always comes to mind is Willa Cather's 'O Pioneers.'
ReplyDeleteI imagine the female expected more than the man could or would give, but that's just an opinion.
I'm another one writing a MOB story, hopefully a series of 3. In the first, she's running away from an abusive, aggressive man..and of course, there's much more to it than that. I toyed with the idea a long time, thought it was a little passé, but I went to Amazon and typed in Books/Mail Order Brides stories. Lands...you wouldn't believe how many, and from checking the rankings on quite a few, I'd say they are still quite popular as romances.
We'll see, in my case.
Thanks for your informative post, and as usual, I like the personal touch.
Hi Tanya! I love MOB stories mostly because the back stories of the heroines are very intriguing! Finances or escaping a bad situation come to mind. A great blog today!!
ReplyDeleteHi Celia, well, if any reader is like me, she will never tire of MOB stories. And of course, in our case, the HEA. I wish you great success with your new series! xo
ReplyDeleteHi Charlene, yep, life must be throwing a MOB some real curve balls to get her out of her comfort zone LOL. I do think somehow, whether desperate or curious or courageous, she's wanting a new way of life for sure!
ReplyDeleteMOB--it's one of those concepts that sounds awful in real life, but I can't resist in fiction! LOVE the sound of Marrying Minda and Her Hurry-up Husband. :)
ReplyDeleteTanya, I have always wondered what in the world would make a woman so desperate that she would leave everything she knew to go to man and a part of the country that she knew nothing about. And I've always felt kind of sorry for women who felt they had no choice but to do that.
ReplyDeleteBut then, I started looking at it differently one day, don't know why. Maybe they WANTED to get out where they were--and not for a dreadful reason, but perhaps they were bored and just yearning for some adventure! (Some of them, anyhow.) I loved your story in Lassoing a Mail Order Bride. Hez and Ellie were just perfect for one another!
Hugs,
Cheryl
Hi Sam, I know what you mean...I'd be scared to death! I only love the idea of MOB if she's in the hands of a romance writer! Hugs to you xoxo
ReplyDeletehi Cheryl, aw shucks and thank ya kindly! I loved Ellie and Hez' story. I think they will just have to be mentioned in the Judy's story--Ellie's sister LOL.
ReplyDeleteI like stories that showed how adventurous Old West women could be and the mail-order bride opportunity certainly illustrates that. Liked your article :)
ReplyDeleteThanks for posting, Rain. I feel,like such a weenie when I learn more and more about the adventurous, strong women who came before.
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